Anger Self Test
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Anger is an emotion which is experienced by everybody. It is not abnormal to be angry. Anger is healthy unless it is not expressed properly. When anger is uncontrollable it may disturb your relationship with family and colleagues. It also has an adverse effect on our quality of life. Anger can be expressed assertively to get positive response and better a situation.
If anger is repressed it is unhealthy, and expressed impulsively may give momentary relief but inevitably give negative consequences. So to change our angry responses we need to understand where they come from. A person could be angry at a specific person or event or anger may be caused by worrying about personal problems.
Memories or enraging events can cause angry feelings. Naturally, anger is expressed aggressively. Hence, there are fights and we defend ourselves when we are attacked. We cannot physically attack every person or object that irritates us or annoys us. Norms of social behavior should be followed.
There are three main approaches to anger:
expressing, suppressing and calming.
When you express your feelings in a controlled, assertive manner - it is healthiest way. It is difficult to do this. You need to know your needs, how to get them met, without hurting others. It means being respectful to yourself and others.
Anger can be controlled by simple techniques. Relaxation tools such as deep breathing can help calm down angry feelings. Breathing deeply and repeating soothing words like "take it easy" will enable you to reduce angry feelings. Practice this technique daily. Slow yoga and meditation is another way to relax. The other way is to change the way you think. If you cannot do so, then you have to check whether you have an anger disorder problem.
To check this, you need to answer some questions honestly. This is an anger self test. Answer the following questions with a yes or no.
- Many times you feel tense
- You cannot say what is on your mind
- When you are upset you try to forget it by watching TV, reading a book or magazine.
- You are addicted to smoking to help you calm down.
- You have trouble sleeping
- You often feel misunderstood or not listened to.
- People say you curse so much.
- You hurt your loved ones when you are angry.
If there are positive answers to 0-3 questions you could benefit from relaxation. If there are 3 to 5 yes answers then you are moderate and need to learn more about your stress management. If there are more than 6 yes answers, you have an anger problem and you need to seek the help of a counselor.